Have you ever hugged your father

Every one of us has a father. Some lost their fathers even before they were born.

I have a father and I wish that I have a closer relationship with him. May be I had a girlfriend too early. So I wasn’t home most of the time. Perhaps I left home too early for further studies.

If you have a choice – what kind of father do you want? Do you really need a father?

My father is a good man. He worked hard and provided for the family. I have no lack in my life.

He is a man of few words. I never know what he thinks about me. I have no idea what he feels about me. I am sure he loves me but I can’t feel his love.

I have been carrying this wound in my heart that never seems to go away….

Do you have an emotionally distant father like me?

I wonder why I strive so much in life. I learned from experienced counselors that I may be seeking affirmation in my life. There is this unceasing desire to have a mentor in my life. Whenever I see a learned wise man, I have an urge to ask him to be my mentor.

Could this be because I am seeking for my father's love?

Abraham Maslow is wrong. The need to be well-fathered is the fundamental need of the human heart. I am not an orphan. But I feel emotionally detached from my father. I never know if my father loves me as a son. I tried to recall an occasion when my father played with me or when he hugged me and told me how much he loves me.

None came to my mind.



My father -

What do you think about me?

Am I precious in your eyes?

Am I a special child?

Do I have a part in your heart?

Have you ever sing over me like I sing over my baby?

Remember - I am your firstborn

Do you have any feelings towards me?

Do you really love me?

Father me



A thought came

My dad himself may not be well-fathered

He left his dad for studies when he was just a teen.



Then I heard a voice from above

Go hug your father



I have never done this before

Seemed strange

What would my dad think of me?

Will I be accepted?

I did it anyway

And I have not stopped hugging my dad since



Have you ever hugged your dad?

You need to hold him tight

‘cos few men know how to embrace their child…